We can all agree that reading success stories is nothing less than awesome! Real life stories about other FASD families, caregivers and FASD persons can provide us with that little bit of hope that we need to get through the day or to add some new perspective to a situation at home or school that you are dealing with.
The success stories that you will read about on these next few pages are from Caregivers and families all over the world who share many of the same challenges and battles, but they also share all the amazing little A-Ha! moments and celebrations, but mostly importantly, these stories are from families just like yours.
Enjoy the read!
I met my husband over 10 years ago and while being with him I always felt there was something not right, I’m not sure how to describe it. We went through a lot from deceit and lies and when it would happen, it seemed to happen over and over again and he would seem like it didn’t even matter. About 2 years ago my mother in law shared that she had drank heavily to the point of passing out every day while carrying my husband. Now, my husband has no features as someone with FAS so as I have been told it is VERY difficult to diagnosis someone with this disorder. So, my journey as well as my husbands was to find out more about FAS. After looking into it myself, which is pretty much the only way that there is, as there isn’t much at the doctors that can help anyone with this disorder. Again, the best advice they could give us is to search the websites. You see, I have Asperger Disorder/High Functioning Autism. Anyone with this disorder wants to do everything right, but don’t like lying or anything bad. With me being this way, it is a perfect world for someone for FAS, but made it a rocky ride for the 10 years, but today I am seeing it as a good thing I came into my husbands life because again, the type of person that is routin-esh and stable is someone that someone with FAS needs. I am not a big reader on books, but when I came across Jeff Noble’s Facebook he decided to send me a book. I read the book in one sitting and felt so much better and said to myself what a wonderful thing I have done for my husband who is very successful in all he does today because of my love and support – he may have never achieved if I didn’t stay in his life. He has achieved13 years in the United States Marines and when he got out he got a Civilian Police Officer job on a United States Marine Base now going on 5 years and getting ready to promote as a Sergeant – thanks to support from 3 Lieutenant referral letters. He also has an auto business, working on vehicles when he doesn’t work as a police officer, that is very successful – which is one of the gifts that anyone that has FAS. He has been doing this since the beginning of the year. He also does more without reminders which I feel are because of routine. He wrote himself notes on the refrigerator to remind him to help, to never look back…not that it might not happen, but knowing what I know now, helps more then if I didn’t. I am SO proud of my husband’s accomplishments. Yes, each day you never know what will happen as you just try to love and support and I feel positive reinforcement is always good and know that they can’t help what they have done. I feel this makes it so much easier than if I would have never known and we probably would never be together today if I didn’t know as much as I do. With him, I feel true love that I have never felt with past relationships I have had – this says a whole lot.
South Carolina, USA
My story started about the year 2005, when my adopted son (biological grandson) asked for a sibling. I could not get my daughter to have another child so I searched the website and DHS services for adoptable children. After 1 failed adoption we got lucky, thanks to adoptuskids.org, I located a pair of boys and started the process of wait and see, months of inquiries for adoption. We knew the littlest son was FAS, but not his older brother, so I researched everything I could get my hands on and prayed, prayed and prayed. We got our sons August 2005 and finalized on February 14th 2006. Little did I know the fight was on and still going to prove that these little men are special even with their disabilities.
Through persistence and lots of seminars, phone calls and the latest of all, Living with FASD Tele-Summit, I have come a long way and so have my sons. They are A – B students in school, in the top 5% for county children in the school district and proving that even with FAS and other disabilities, children getting early interventions and structure and a loving and stable home can and will persevere and be proud of who they are. We have overcome so many obstacles and have a lot more to come. These little men keep me on my toes and going and I continue to fight for all special little ones, because where we live they continue to mislabel these kiddos as autistic… just so they get services. My boys will tell anyone and everyone about fetal alcohol and how to prevent it and why it is so important to them to get the word out there. Every day is a new day and obstacles are meant to be knocked down…. They are true survivors of the disability.